Week One - - - Day Three
The Importance of Lust/ Desire
For the body
For the heart
For the soul
Let’s start with the soul.
What do you lust for, at the soul level?
As in Lust for Life?
As in Pursuit of Happiness? (And Pursuit back in the time that was written meant something more like an ongoing pastime, like the pursuit of gardening, or knitting, or even good friendship. So the pursuit of happiness was like an ongoing cultivation of happiness.)
AND… IS HAPPINESS AN ONGOING PURSUIT OF YOUR SOUL?
I suspect so.
Happiness without others, without love, is certainly not enough. But we all know, in our heart of hearts, that if we are plunging through our days, “getting things done,” even wonderful things like taking our kids to the soccer practice, if we aren’t happy along the way, we are wasting our life.
Let’s start with you beginning your exploration.
Get a paper, or a journal.
Soul Lust exercise/ game #1: Deep Goals
On a piece of paper, or in a journal you can label “Deep Goals”
Take at least three breaths and then slowly write a deep, soul goal.
Something that you are yearning for in your depths.
Take at least another three deep breaths. Perhaps stand and look into Nature as you take these breaths.
Then write another Deep Soul Goal.
Now, go to a window, whether you did last goal or not.
Move in some easy and body loving way with your arms over your head.
Notice and love nature.
Notice and love being alive and breathing.
Wait for a third deep heart/ deep soul goal to come to you.
Slowly walk to where you are writing and write it so slowly you feel as if your whole body and whole soul is writing this goal.
Pick up your journal and go to the window again, and read aloud the three deep soul goals you have written.
This is wonderful work.
Go slowly and gently with this.
Allow yourself to be proud of yourself for taking time to do this.
Often people need a nearly fatal accident or sickness in themselves or someone they love to be shocked into looking deeply into this truth:
I AM ALIVE. THIS IS A MIRACLE. WHAT DO I WANT TO BE AND DO INSIDE THIS MIRACLE OF MY LIFE?
So, what does your soul hunger for?
A soul mate?
Deep and easy great health?
A sense of deep purpose?
A part in healing the climate change problem?
A part in healing… racism, poverty, inequality, sexism, war…?
A way to do that and maintain inner peace?
A way to do that, to do everything and maintain inner joy?
Joy as the ongoing heart feeling?
Awareness of the ongoing and always changing present as a deep steadying center to your life?
These are all deep wishes of my soul.
These wishes are why I am writing this book.
I want millions of people to be happy, to have love despite the human condition (we are all assholes sometimes, unless we had perfect parents, which no one did).
I want millions of people to wake up to the delight of being present.
I want millions of people to wake up to a life of ongoing joy, even when things aren’t going our way.
I want these millions also to go beyond their small lives and make a difference in humanity and the planet, all the while enjoy presence and great sex and ongoing happiness/ joy.
One of my deep goals (that I wrote as I created the assignment… as I’ve said, this isn’t just a book for others. It’s for us, ALL OF US) was this:
TO WRITE A BOOK WORTHY OF AND HONORING THE DEP GOOD FORTUNE AND AMAZING TEACHINGS I HAVE RECEIVED, AND ACHIEVED IN MY LIFE
One things to do with gratitude is to seek to pass on the learning and the good fortune.
This book is that gift to you.
Go slowly please.
See if you have a sense that you can shift into the three practices of the first three days as a daily gift/ learning/ nourishment practice in your ongoing life.
One: Writing and speaking gratitude each day
Two: Breathing easily while watching / connecting to Nature
Three: Getting quiet and asking your soul/ deep heart for what it wants.
AND NOW FOR SOMETHING THAT MIGHT SEEM DIFFERENT - - - THE BODY LEVEL OF LUST
This isn’t going to be about sex, yet.
And yet, sex is important.
If sex is a mindful connection of two real people, it can be transformative.
I’m of the good luck (see above) and ongoing practice where my wife and I have have sex more or less daily.
There are ways that can make this possible without viagra for a man over sixty.
There are ways that can make this an almost spiritual practice for both Carol and I.
It is a great source of connection and pleasure.
And what does this have to do with you?
If you are a couple who is doing great, making sure of mindful daily touch/ caressing/ sex can be absolutely delightfully in notching up to an even higher level.
If you are a couple in trouble, this is going to take more time and patience, and some of the beginning practices, like stroking each other’s hands and feet, or holding hands while sharing gratitudes, or sleeping together naked with or without sex, will make the transition back to wonderful and wondrous far easier.
If you are alone now: so be it.
Later we’ll be exploring some of my great good fortune to spend time with Byron Katie, and some time learning how “Loving What Is” can be the solution to almost all emotional suffering and/ or impatience.
Which is to say: Loving What Is can call forth loving that you don’t yet have your mate.
What to do? Read on. Today’s practice is here for you and everyone.
Touch is part of life. Without it we aren’t really alive.
Here’s the beginners/ advanced/ all people lust touch game.
Mindful Lust Practice #1:
Find a pleasant and comfortable place to sit.
Hold your dominant hand in your other hand.
Slowly, to a timer, try at least these three mindful touching practices from one hand to the other:
One: squeeze gently in at least three places.
Two: explore the dominant hand with the other hand, as if you’ve never felt a hand before
Three: go very slowly in rubbing or stroking the one hand with the other. Pay slow and close and exquisite attention to the two halves of the touch:
What is the moving hand feeling?
What is the hand that is being touched feeling?
Notice the spot at which this exchange is happening.
Later we will create avenues to an amazing new sexual / non sex connection using this. No hurry. Enjoy your day.