Let’s expand the awareness part of how we are coming to more and more “enlightenment” in our life.
“Enlightenment” can sound like a wispy, sitting on a pillow in a serene meditation retreat on some secluded mountain thing ( disclaimer: Carol and I go twice a year to silent meditation retreats with Adyashanti in the Sierra Mountains, near Lake Tahoe. Good to do occasionally, in my opinion. Which… is just my opinion. See the prior chapter: don’t believe opinions, mine or your own.)
Enlightenment can sound like it’s a sweet way to float above the world.
AND this is a book about Love, Lust and Enlightenment
Which means: Enlightenment is something we’re going to delight in and use WHILE we are having sex.
Enlightenment is something we’re going to take advantage of to stop the stupid shit we talked about in the last chapter. Yes, we need a way out when we are going to be assholes and have our buttons pushed. How to come back to the present to leave that behind?
Yes, we are going to be assholes and push our lover/ spouse/ friend’s buttons. So be it, welcome to the human race. How can we use “enlightenment” to bring ourselves back to our real selves and out of the asshole self we’ve fallen into?
Glad you asked.
Strangely and wonderfully, enlightenment as we are going to present it in this book has something in common with going to the yoga studio, or taking a walk, or getting a massage, or slipping into a warm bath, or laying out on the beach for a warm rest in the sun.
Enlightenment is at least in part: getting back into the big whole amazing body we have.
ENLIGHTENMENT IS IN PART COMING OUT OF OUR “THINKING”/ WORDS IN OUR HEAD, INTO AN AWARENESS OF THE BIG AMAZING BODY WE ARE IN: TOES, FINGERS, ARMS, LEGS, SPINE, RIBS, BREATHING, GRAVITY, PELVIS, MOVEMENT, HEAD ON TOP OF THE SPINE, ANKLES, WRISTS, ELBOWS, KNEES, HIPS, SHOULDER.
Which is to say: enlightenment can be accessed instantly anywhere we are, by shifting our attention out of the “inner yammer” and back into “the body.”
Notice three parts of your body below your navel.
Notice three parts of your body between your navel and your neck, which can include anything in your arms and hand.
Notice three parts of your body, as body, above your neck.
That’s actually the first game for today:
Enlightenment as being Present to Your Body Game #1: Three layers.
Stand somewhere, preferably outside.
If you have to, sit, and better, almost always, to stand.
Sense your toes to your hips for both legs.
Sense your pelvis.
Notice this as three distinct areas, as well as the whole feeling of both legs from hips down to the toes.
Take some deep breaths.
Feel your ribs moving in and out as you breathe.
Feel your belly moving in and out as you breathe.
Sense your arms, both of them, from the two shoulders out to all of your fingertips.
Sense your ears and notice sound coming in.
Sense your eyes and notice light coming in.
Sense your neck and skull and find some areas to enjoy.
Smile and feel your face relaxing.
Take a breath in your nose: notice smells if there are any, and enjoy breathing no matter what.
Feel and enjoy the air coming in and out.
Taking a shit, that’s you.
Sitting on the meditation pillow, that’s you.
Walking to your car, that’s you.
Walking down your hallway, that’s you.
Yammering on the phone, that’s you.
Texting some oh so important thing: that’s you.
Wasting your time (my opinion) watching facebook, that’s you.
Reading this, that’s you.
And, really, really, really, play with this three layers thing.
That’s the whole thing for today.
Game Two of Being Present and No Body = Nobody
As you go through your day, notice any time you are less than happy.
Notice how many areas in your body you are present to.
JUMP to a new spot.
Sense some areas of your body in all three layers.
Notice the difference.
Then, slink back to the “thinking” only spot and feel the pain.
Then, JUMP again to noticing/ sensing/ being aware of the three levels of your body.
Notice the difference.
Noticing the difference.
Trying something different: That’s being in charge of your own life.
It can drift.
So be it, that’s the way we are trained.
And it can go to shit, that’s the way it’s set up.
And….we can chose to do something different.
Almost anything different is a beginning.
Don’t think about this.
Keep playing with JUMPING when you are in a place you don’t want to be.
And, what is this saying: NO BODY = NOBODY.
It’s from tomorrow’s game, “being in the energy.” Sneak ahead if you want, to http://energyforsuccess.org.
It’s a five thousand year old system of Chinese energy, and one of it’s core koans is No Body = Nobody.
Recommended are “energy” exercise, that involve moving your arms or arms or feet or some interesting combination. Doing these once an hour, to shift out of the trapped life in our heads.
They are fun.
They are delightful.
Even if what is claimed ( that they hook you more quickly into “the energy” as the “source” energy of the universe) is not true, they do get you into your body.
What’s good about that?
My opinion is just my opinion.
Your experience is your life.
Experience NOW what being in three levels of your body in the present is like.
Does it feel like more of you is there?
If so, great.